The age old saying, those who've felt it, know it!

Self-sacrifice is not healthy for Self and it is not healthy for others. Those who are looking for mothering need not be in relationships, as relationships are partnerships.

This need for mothering, is connected to either a mother wound or a father wound that needs to be addressed by introspecting and retrospecting to bring to the surface the source of this deep routed trauma.

I speak based on my own experiences, but I love when I can find clips to share that confirm my own experiences as many are facing these types of challenges.

I personally find that these occurrences are most often connected to the programmings of monotheistic forms of religion that preaches sacrifice and putting everything before self. And if we choose otherwise, punish punish punish. This was one particular programming that was very difficult for me to re-write in the beginning, as I was raised by the clergy in a Seventh Day Adventist church. When I found my way back to the original teachings of religion, and started to focus on healing Self by going within, the programming became easier to re-write at quantum levels. My level of happiness increased exponentially, as did my productivity, drive, clarity and focus.

I don't agree or align with monotheistic forms of religions and sects for this reason. I however align with henotheism, monolatrism, but mainly polytheism.

Guru Arjan spoke a great deal on pluralism, which is why I have such great honour and respect for him and the Gurus of his bloodline. Defend without violent means, while unifying despite the beliefs system we choose to follow. The Gurus of his bloodline, has also been my teachers on this path of enlightenment. Gather at times, I step out of pocket because at times, some awareness will piss us off to no end.

Respecting and honouring the Feminine, as we respect and honour the Masculine. Working in a partnership style relationship, not authoritative. Understanding, compassion, kindness. These are profound teachings I learned as I shifted out of the monotheistic belief systems with the guidance of my elders and teachers. Invaluable teachings. I am so grateful for the many guidance and understanding that was brought forth with these incredible, life changing shifts.

Facing one's wounds and fears. Deep reflection and introspection to bring to the surface what is necessary for us to release and let go. Letting go of that which is no longer serving us to create the spaces needed for the new to land with ease. Connecting with the subconscious mind at profound levels is the only way to do this.

This is why as a healer, I do not heal others, I instead create the spaces for them to heal themselves. I provide the tools, the guidance, the understanding, the compassion to do so, as was done for me. And when it is far beyond my ability or the space becomes harmful to me and those around me, I choose to let go and let God take the lead in another way, shape, or form. This is known as using discernment. And a very loving part of the healing journey for myself and those who require the healing at that moment. Again, these are profound skills I learned through my own experiences, through studying and with the guidance of my elders and inner guidance systems by unlocking information contained within my cells.

The latter is a form of extraction and a rather painful approach. I apply intense pressure at times for the purposes of unlocking the information contained within my cells and would not recommend this form of extraction without the proper medical knowledge and guidance. I however, have an extremely high tolerance for pain and have the medical knowledge and guidance to do so, when necessary.

Take it one step at a time, slow down, breathe and ask for guidance when needed.

Each one teaches one, and we all rise together as one, in divine timing. Goddess Kairos!

Food for thought